Do you think you can be "too slutty" when it comes to ?

I've been married for two years, and I love my husband. However, I'm a very shy person when it comes to . So, my question is, do you think things like touching yourself or having a vibrator for yourself come off as weird during ? Or does it make a man feel inadequate? Real advice would be appreciated, and yes I know, the best answer is to ask my husband. Like I said, I'm very shy and other people opinions would help me very much.